Scratch that. Nobody is an expert on the facts of life. There are only people with experiences. These people are around long enough to know the difference between what works and what doesn’t. They know how to deal with people and work with the bumps along the way. Most of all, they are self-assured. They know enough to help the lost and young on the questions they had when they were at the same age.
When advice is put into action, it becomes a part of etiquette. Instilling manners into your system does not only benefit yourself. It also helps the community and the society once everyone gets going with the trend. You get to score points with your neighbors at your condo in Nuvali. You live a long life as you fill yourself with confidence and love.
However, a twenty-something may still be unaware of how to accomplish these things. Most of them recently got their diplomas, on their first job or serious relationship. Some of them think they have it all under control when they absolutely have no idea what to do. They face problems head-on and apply solutions that only smack them in the face. Stumbles will always be part of life, but they become fewer as one learns how to face the hurdles.
Experienced Humans: Fifty-Somethings
Below are some bits of advice from experienced humans, in this case, fifty-somethings that will help you through life. These people already spent half their life on Earth. Hence, they don’t mess around when talking about life.
Actively work on identifying what job will make you feel like you don’t work in a 9-to-5 setup. Pursue it with all the energy you can manage. Nothing says demise than daily routine. Clocking in and out at the office, sending and replying to e-mails, and accomplishing the same ad-hoc tasks is a surefire way to kill the spirit. Instead, ignite the passion inside of you. Dance, draw, paint, read, sing, write, or travel if that’s what you wish to do. You can immerse in various pursuits throughout your lifetime. Doing them brings you closer to what works for you.
No one wins or loses in the game of life. It’s the journey that counts. The material wealth you have – cash, automobiles, electronics, and other luxury items – have the same value as the generic ones. A Chanel bag is still a bag. A Bentley is still a car. It all boils down to perspective. Switching to newer and better versions of the former will result in the same way it was before after six months.
Consequently, do not put stuff above people when making priority lists. They are never as important as the people you love. Cherish the memories and time you have with each person in your life. Family and friends are the ones there for you at a time of crisis. Not your iPhone.
Major life decisions are for you to decide. Other people exist to encourage and provide support. They must not be the one running the show. Thus, don’t make decisions to please others. Live for yourself. Remember, there is no one else to support you and your dreams but you.
If you don’t have confidence, fake it. Pretend as if you do. Going through the motions will trick your brain into believing. Eventually, you will gain it, and everything will fall into place.
These five pieces of advice target the self. Change starts within a person the spreads to others once they are sure of themselves. Twenty-somethings are in a period of insecurity due to the unstable footing and lack of knowledge in the world. Having a guide, mentor or someone who is wise beyond their years are the people who give out nuggets of wisdom.
“A bad neighbor is a misfortune, as much as a good one is a great blessing.” -Hesiod
A Chinese proverb once said that a good neighbor is a priceless treasure and indeed they are. Although it is an often overlooked aspect when it comes to looking for a prospective house, it should be an integral element when it comes to looking for the right neighborhood. After all, a good neighbor does not only foster a community of helpful friendliness and comfortable living; it cultivates a good relationship among all the members of the society as well. However, it is not only enough that your neighbors are good, but you also need to be an excellent neighbor to them as well. After all, these are the people you live in proximity with so it is only right that you establish a good relationship with them. So, if you have just moved into a new neighborhood or are seeking to make new friends with the neighbors who have just moved in (whether you may be living in a condominium in Manila or elsewhere), here are ways you can be an exemplary neighbor:
1.) Be welcoming
It might be a little awkward to start up a conversation with a neighbor who is new to the community and even harder if you have lived next to them for months or years, but it can be done. Break the ice by introducing yourself as soon as they move in or if they have been around for quite some time, talk to them. Inviting them to a delicious meal or giving them some of your homemade cookies would not hurt either.
2.) Strike up a conversation
One of the easiest ways to establish a relationship with your neighbor is to strike up a conversation whenever you see them. Instead of just smiling and waving, ask them how their day went and do some small talk. In this way, you can get to know your neighbor better. Remember, try not to broach on topics that are too personal—well not until at least you know your neighbor fairly well and have established a close relationship with them.
3.) Do not snoop on your neighbor’s business
If you have been invited into your neighbor’s home, do not snoop around. Wait for him or her to give you a guided tour and if he or she does not, do not wander. Simply stay where he has invited you. Furthermore, do not try and pry into your neighbor’s personal life as this might make them feel like their privacy or personal space is invaded. Wait for your neighbor to open up to you in his or her own time and if they do not, do not pressure them into doing so.
4.) Be responsible for your pets
Be a little considerate of your neighbors if you have furry friends about. Make sure that your dog does not bark in the wee hours of the morning and also, do not let them leave their waste in your neighbor’s yard as this is one way to ruffle their feathers. Be responsible for your pets, and your neighbors will thank you for that.
5.) Do not be noisy
Should you be throwing a party or hosting an event in your house, let your neighbors know in advance—especially if,, you expect it to be a little rowdy. However, should your event last way into the night, try to at least tone it down and keep your voices down. Warn your guests not to get too uproariously noisy as this is a guarantee that your neighbors would be irked. Or worse, they might even call the cops on you.
Remember, if you want a good relationship with your neighbor, it has to start with you as well. Be a good neighbor yourself and maybe that is all you would need to make a difference. You might never know, but the neighbor you have been living next to for years might just be someone you can consider as a close friend.