“Change can be scary, but you know what is scarier? Allowing fear to stop you from growing, evolving and progressing” –Mandy Hale
It is no question that one of the most stressful events you will ever go through.
Unfortunately, moving is not one task you can opt to sit one out because at some point in your life, moving homes is going to be inevitable. Indeed, while the prospect alone would already seem intimidating to adults, what more on your little tots? Yes, moving would be difficult but if you have young children in tow, expect it to be even harder on them. Little children have an affinity for permanence insomuch that the idea of any kind of change would be scary to them. The moment you tell them that you are moving, it would feel as if their world is collapsing around them. Children can often feel uncertain about a move and would resultantly resist it in a myriad of ways.
When told about the move, they can often throw tantrums and would whine. They would often feel like they are oppressed by the prospect of moving and this is very much understandable. After all, to a kid, the home is their world—one that they associate with love, safety and family insomuch that the thought of leaving it behind can be terrifying. For older children, the prospect of leaving their school, friends, and teachers can be jarring to a routine they are used to. In this regard, it is best to tell them the news about your in an opportune moment. However, do not wait too long as they would also need the time to adjust to the news and make the resultant move go so much smoother.
So, make your move to Pioneer Woodlands or elsewhere go without a hitch by keeping these tips in mind when breaking the news to your children:
Tell them early
Once a decision has been reached, gather your family around and get them involved. The sooner you tell them, the better lest they think you are deliberately hiding something important from them. Remember, your older kids will want to know when you decided this the moment you tell them the news. To ensure that they would all equally feel in the loop, let them know that they are the first ones to know about your decision. By doing so, they would feel assured that they matter as well.
Hold a family meeting
After dinner, ask your family to stay behind before quickly going to their rooms or doing any chores. Similarly, you might wish to tell them the news in the family room, but make sure that there are no distractions such as the television or any other gadgets. Be careful not to break the news in public areas such as restaurants or parks as children need to express their feelings freely. Plus, you do not want to have to appease a crying child in the middle of a busy diner. Do it in an environment where everyone feels comfortable. Keep your kids at ease by not announcing the subject of your news until such time that you and your children already get to sit and talk together.
Not every single one of your children is going to take your news easily. Understand that your kids might be upset and allow them to express their emotions—whether that may be anger to frustration. Allow them to ask you questions and answer them as honestly as you can. Give them time to process the news and accept that they might not be as receptive to the news as you expected them to be. More importantly, let them talk and listen to them. Let them know they are heard. Being able to talk and air out their frustrations and feelings about the matter would let them know that they matter as well.
Be firm about letting them know that the decision is final
Some children may wheedle out of their way about a possibility they do not like. However, let your kids know that the decision is final and be firm about it. If you wavered in your decision and should you express any doubts or worries, your children would feel uncertain and might even ask you to rethink the move. If you are having second thoughts, express these to your spouse when the two of you are alone or to a trusted confidante. Do not whisper at night or even talk about it when you are in your room. You will never know when little ears might be listening in.
Provide kids only with the information they need
In discussing the move, it is important to disclose everything your kids might want to know. However, you should be careful not to overwhelm them with information. Thing such as when the move would be, where, why and how are all pertinent things to answer when telling them the news. Should they want to know anything more, they would ask. Give them time to adjust to the news and do not bombard them with all the details all at once.
It is just a natural thing to move out. Agree? People naturally want to live in a place where they can be proud of and live a healthy and satisfying lifestyle. Who would not want that? Well, it really doesn’t matter if you are planning to move into your new condo in New Manila or any other real estate properties in the Philippines, for as long as you can be contented with the things you have at home, then there is nothing to worry about. However, there are just times that there are some unexpected things we mostly encounter while moving in.
Many of us here believe the saying “expect the unexpected.” Yes, cliché as it may seem, but it may be true to some people who decide to move into their new home. They tend to expect something but turns out or ends up the opposite thing. Later on, you will eventually realize that you are learning something out from moving in a hard way. And yes, you are not the only one since there are also people who experience such things.
Well, if you are one of those people who is planning to move into their new home, below are some tips for you to know about moving in and what you should expect. Of course, this is also one way you can avoid troubles later on. And if problems may arise inevitably, at least, you know what you should do to prevent from experiencing such things again and again.
1. It always costs more than what you expect
When it comes to money matter, it is better for you to have some extra money in your bank to make sure that there will be no financial problems that may arise later on. Of course, there are times that there will be some add-ons that you forget to include on your payments, at least, you still have money that can pay for that particular thing. Not just with the down payments issues, there are also times that you need to have or buy some furniture for your home. And if you don’t have any money to buy such, then you definitely have to endure no having furniture at home. And you definitely don’t want that to happen, right? That is why it is a must for you to budget and have extra money for any case of financial emergencies.
Not just with the down payments issues, there are also times that you need to have or buy some furniture for your home. And if you don’t have any money to buy such, then you definitely have to endure no having furniture at home. And you definitely don’t want that to happen, right? That is why it is a must for you to budget and have extra money for any case of financial emergencies.
2. It’s going to take you longer to clean and move the last bits than it did move all the rest of your stuff combined
When moving in, we usually tend to move first the big furniture at our new home. With that, a bunch of small things will most likely end up taking a lot of trips to get into the moving van. Of course, there will be tendencies that you’ll go to have the “tire-of-moving” feeling. To avoid such, why don’t you try packing things into boxes that go with certain rooms and areas so you can make getting it into a new home much easier? Moreover, you can also cut down that feeling by cleaning room by room the month or so before you move, so when it comes to moving day, you’re it will also be easier for you to move the things in each room.
Moreover, you can also cut down that feeling by cleaning room by room the month or so before you move, so when it comes to moving day, you’re it will also be easier for you to move the things in each room.
3. Renter’s remorse is real and can sometimes ruin the first few days of a new place if you let it
There are just times that out from your impulsiveness when it comes to making life decisions, you regret what you chose. Yes, a lot of you here have experienced such situations that you regret moving into their new home. That means, you just realize it in the later part of your stay. Perhaps, you don’t like the people or neighbors around your since they usually do gossip around the corner. Or you just don’t like the place since the noise and other pollutions are definitely visible to the place where you live.
Hence, it is paramount for you to make sure you are choosing the right property before investing it. Well, if you can find one, you better think again and again if you like or if it’s worth the living or not. It is a must for you to know to make sure that you won’t regret any of your decisions later on.