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Whether you’re in a new suburban neighborhood or recently moved in your new condo, you can feel more at home when you know the people than when you don’t. Staying aloof and keeping to yourself might work when you were a kid, but it won’t be the same once you turn into an adult. You have to get along with your neighbors to ensure you live in a peaceful community.
You might find it easy to get along with a bunch of people. Meanwhile, you might find some people in your community won’t warm up to so easily. Sometimes you have to conjure a few tricks from your sleeves to make them open up to you. If you have a hard time being friendly with the neighbors, here are ten things you can do to become their friend.
1. Be the first one to say hello
When new in a place, first impression matters. You should always be the one to wave and give a friendly smile. It doesn’t matter if you’re tired from carrying boxes. You should appear welcoming and open for small talk. It makes people think you’re friendly.
2. Schedule a time for exploring the community
You won’t meet people by staying indoors all the time. You also get a chance of catching up with others while walking their dogs, tending to their gardens or lounging in their patio. Take daily morning or evening walks to meet new friends. You can ask your neighbors about local restaurants, dog-friendly parks, and community events. Asking about garbage collection is schedule is another way to break the ice.
3. Go old-school
Try the traditional route and bring some gifts when you visit your neighbor. Some communities still offer housewarming gifts to new families in the neighborhood. If someone does bring you something, you should return the favor. You can bake a batch of cookies using your mom’s secret recipe. But if you don’t have a knack for baking, then you can opt for local pastries near Ardia Vermosa.
4. Give out compliments
Always be a giver. If offering some goodies is stretching it too far, then you should hand out compliments. Marveling at your neighbor’s new paint job, well-maintained lawn, or the design of their home is free. You can easily get at thumbs up when you are generous with compliments. The next time you bump into the couple next door, you should try commenting on how great their blooms are.
5. Exchange numbers
Giving your phone number or home landline is a sign of trust. It means you’re letting the person be part of your inner circle. It also means your placing your neighbor in the list of emergency contacts you have. It’s now easy to invite their family over the next time you plan to have a mini celebration. Most of all, you’ll know who to call once your pet gets out of your backyard.
6. Make plans
Improving your relationship with people doesn’t end. Talking to them now and then is great, but you have to go out and do activities eventually. Grabbing a cup of coffee or a few rounds of beer are some things you can do to connect with them. If you want to get to know the people on your block without having to invite them one by one, then you should set up a housewarming party. It’s fun, and it brings people together. It also helps you get to know the people in your neighborhood without feeling pressured about it.
7. Find out who’s nearby
If you’re relocating to a different community, you should look for a friendly face in the neighborhood. You can look into your social networks to find out who’s nearby. Your school’s alumni association, church group, and other organizations you belong are some of the places you can look for friends and associates who might be in the same neighborhood as you are.
8. Discover shared interests
Similar to other relationships in your life, there’s bound to be common interest that you and your neighbor both enjoy. It might be a passion for home decor, gardening, or triathlons. Whatever it is, you can use it to bond over and build your relationship. If they have kids the same age as yours, you can schedule a playdate. If not, you can always tag along to his or her weekly sessions at the gym or favorite nail salon.
9. Visit popular communal areas
There’s bound to be an area where your neighbors frequent. Some people spend their weekends at the clubhouse. Others set up a meeting point at the jogging trail. It can also be the tennis courts or the park near the city center. You should spend time in these places, so you could chance upon your neighbors. Bring a book to read, walk your dog, or take your family to strike a conversation with people you only see when you throw the trash.
10. Deliver mail personally
If you live in an apartment, there’s a chance their letter gets mixed up with yours. You should take advantage of this opportunity. Knock to their door and introduce yourself. It might seem logical to slip the mail under their door or leave their letter in the mailbox. But if your goal is to make some friends, then you should go ahead and deliver their mail personally.
Making friends with your neighbor is not as difficult as you think. As long as you don’t let your awkwardness and shyness get in the way, you’ll be fine. In time, you’ll learn to enjoy the company of your neighbors and the people around you.
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Going to the movies is a normal thing for adults. Some people watch movies every week. Other see the latest flicks a few times a month while some only visit a theater once a month. It doesn’t matter how many times they’ve been to a movie theater. Adults are used to going to different theaters to watch the latest movie releases. Unfortunately, it’s not the same for children. Most kids still haven’t been in a theater. Since cinemas have strict age limits, most parents opt to watch movies in their home.
Still, a lot of parents would like their children to experience what it’s like to view a film on the silver screen. You must first know a few things before you bring your child to the theater. Parents take their kids to the movie theater without preparing themselves is a huge mistake. They also don’t take the time to tell their kids what to expect and how to act. Fortunately, the tips below can help you manage your kids and ensure you have a grand time at the theater.
You must get your tickets online
Kids don’t like the waiting game. They have no patience for falling in line. If you’re seeing a movie during the weekend, then you are likely to face long lines. You should book your seats online to avoid waiting in line. You can check out booking sites like SureSeats or the theater’s website to buy your tickets. These platforms also support online payment and transfers. Thus, you won’t have to take out your wallet and count your cash once in the theater.
Check if your kids are ready to spend time in the theater
There isn’t a specific age for kids to visit the movie theater. Some parents bring their kids to see their first movie once they 3 or 4 years old. The decision is up to your kid. Some children aren’t ready to see their first movie around this age. They either won’t sit still or are bothered by the dark. Other kids are sensitive to the noises. Before you book your tickets, you must ensure the children are comfortable staying in the dark and placing their attention on what’s playing on the screen.
You must select a kid-friendly movie
If you’re taking your kids to see a flick that’s appropriate to them. Most of the time, it’s an animation or a cartoon. However, not all of them are the best choices for the children. As much as possible, you should select a movie that is slow-paced or has a short screening time. The film must not be as long as the average blockbuster, so impatient and temperamental children won’t make a fuss while the movie goes on.
Skip the commercials and trailers
You might enjoy viewing the latest movies and staying updated through the movie trailers. But when you have young audiences coming with you, it’s best to skip them. You should opt to arrive on time instead of coming early. Kids younger than 8 years old might not distinguish the difference between the actual film and the previews. At the same time, the fast storyline of the storyline might leave them confused. You might also chance upon a preview of a horror film. The experience can terrify them and make them back out from watch out the rest of the movie.
Time it right
Don’t go to the theater because you feel like it. Ensure that your kids and other children with you are in the right state of mind. Some kids are on their best behavior in the morning. You should watch a movie during the times when they aren’t cranky and in a good mood. The best time to bring them is after taking their nap or getting their fill. When the timing is right, you won’t have a difficult time getting them to calm down.
Decide on which snacks to buy ahead of time
Before scoring tickets from the booth, you must decide which snacks to buy. You might end up missing the movie if you don’t establish which popcorn flavor to buy, what candy to pick, and which drink is best with popcorn. On your way to the theater, you must negotiate which food to get from the snack bar.
Try not to pressure your kid
Remember, you are not alone who must deal with screaming or crying child. Yes, it’s a waste of money to buy tickets for a movie your child is not ready to see. But, you shouldn’t force your child to go through something they are not prepared to experience. You can always try again next time, or you can try going back to the theater after he or she calms down.
For adults, going to movie theaters is an ordinary feat. But for children, it’s different. They aren’t used to the dark. They won’t sit still and focus all their attention on the screen. Therefore, you must consider these things before you bring your child to see his or her first movie.
Everyone says life is short, but do you know what is shorter? Your teenage years, your twenties, thirties and so on. When you think of it, you only have ten years for each stage of life. It can be a stretch when you count it day by day. But in reality, it’s a phase you’ll get over in a few years.
Whatever age you are now, you should start building your bucket list. Your bucket list isn’t only for those with a death sentence. It’s also for people who have always been in their comfort zone. If you’re one of those people, then it’s time for you to step out of it. You should step up your game and live your life and not just watch by the sidelines.
The list below includes some of the activities you can try. You can pick only the ones you fancy and leave out the rest. Your bucket list is entirely up to you.n
Watch a horror flick on a weekday
Since The Nun is currently playing in theaters, why not head to Vertis North cinema to watch it? Be sure to catch it during the weekday since most people are at work or school. You’ll have the theater to yourself and to a couple of brave souls who picked the same day to watch it. You’ll get to experience fear in its full glory while bingeing on chocolates and sodas because there’s no one to tell you otherwise.
Learn to cook a family recipe
You can live on chicken nuggets, deep-fried frozen meat, and canned tuna forever, but it won’t be good for your health. You can develop cancer or some deadly disease you might only find out a few years down the road. Break your habit of fried and oven-toasted food by learning how to cook. You can start by perfecting the art of recreating your grandma’s casserole or your pop’s superb pasta. Whatever it is, ask your family to teach you how to do it before they are gone.
Work on a job with tips
You may have a degree, but it’s not an assurance you’ll land your dream job after you leave school. More often than not, your first job is something you don’t want to do for the rest of your life. Sometimes, it’s not what you expect. If you’re a fresh grad and currently looking into employment opportunities, you should try retail or service jobs. These industries won’t bring in big bucks, but they’ll teach you a lot about people and how to work with them.
Find a cause and volunteer
It feels good to help people and fight for a purpose. Don’t spend all your time binge watching shows, playing video games or daydreaming about things you can’t change. Instead, use your time to find a cause you love. You can help cancer patients make their dreams come true. You can plant trees to save mountains. You can spend time at an animal shelter. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as you enjoy what you do and it pushes you to volunteer without hesitation.
List the things you discovered about yourself
Every day is a new beginning. It’s an opportunity for you to do something different from yesterday. The experiences you will have today makes you a different person tomorrow. Therefore, you should list the things you discover about yourself. Having a list is an excellent way to track your changes and how much you’ve grown in a short amount of time. You can review the list weekly or monthly to see if there are significant changes in your self.
Move to a place far from home
Think of your home as your comfort zone. The goal is to get out of the zone to see how you’ll respond in different situations. Staying at home won’t allow you to expand your roots. Therefore, it’s time you consider moving out of your hometown. You should find a place that helps you grow and succeed as a person. You won’t know which area is the right place for you if you don’t venture far from the bird’s nest.
Travel to a place you don’t understand the language
Often, language is the least of your worries. You don’t have to study a new language because everyone speaks English, right? Unfortunately, not everyone is fortunate to go to school and learn English. Some poor communities don’t even have the means to educate themselves on the local culture. You should visit a place that doesn’t speak your language. You’ll be forced to learn the local dialect and communicate with people through other means.
Be the first person to say sorry
You should start acknowledging your faults and owning up to your mistakes. Saying sorry is the same as giving credit. It benefits everyone. It makes you and the other person feel good. When you apologize, you can quickly move past the argument and sticky situation. Last but the least, saying sorry means you’re letting go of the anger that holds you back.
These are the things you should add to your bucket list. Most people neglect to do these little things, but they are often those that leave the most impact. If you wish to enrich your life, you should start creating your bucket list. Go over each item while you still have time. It’ll leave with stories to tell your future grandchildren.