“Marriage is not just about love and living together. It is much more complicated, especially when you are going to be making a family.” –Laura Schlessinger
Modern couples are often warned against living together before receiving the sacrament of marriage.
However, this rather archaic belief (and old-fashioned advice) that suggests couples should avoid living in sin with their significant other has been somewhat diminished by the way most people in a relationship behave nowadays. After all, if we were not so intent on holding on to antiquated notions, we would see how living together prior to marriage can actually be very beneficial to couples. In a way, it gives you an insight of what your partner really is like before you tie the knot and would ultimately help you determine whether the both of you would make a good match. Despite what statistics might suggest, there are some merits to living together without the benefit of marriage. So, if you have been thinking of moving in with your significant other—whether in a home in Kasara Urban Resort Residences or elsewhere—here are some of the most convincing reasons why it might be a good idea:
It gives you the full idea of what you are signing up for
When you are in a relationship, you tend to put your best foot forward in order to impress your significant other. However, when we are at home, we tend to be in our own element, let our hair down and get comfortable. More often than not, we may often have habits that our significant other might not approve of and they might have quirks which would grate on our nerves. These are all things you would not notice if you only saw each other outside of the home and casually dated. When you are living together, you would see the person for who they really are—quirks and all. In this regard, you would be able to decide whether the both of you would be a good fit or not. After all, those cute little habits might not be that cute to you after all. Best you find out now when you have not officially tied the knot yet then when the both of you are already married.
Divorce is expensive
Domestic issues are often deal breakers when it comes to marriages. Unfortunately, you would not have an idea of what these are until you have lived with a person under one roof. More often than not, they do not come to light until such time that a person lives with you in the same home and you wake up with them every single day. These home issues are rather insidious as there is no way of predicting what they are and yet, it can lead you to break up—even within just the first couple of months. If you are married, this might mean you have to resort to a nasty divorce settlement whereas living together would only mean moving out.
It gives you an idea of what married life will be like
More often than not, couples would hastily get hitched under the premise that marriage is all bliss and euphoria without paying any heed to the potential issues that may arise. Unfortunately, marriages do not always mean happy endings or perfect romances. At times, the truth is harsher and there is really no perfect life after marriage. After all, marriage is mostly about teamwork and working with each other which means moving together towards resolving your issues. Living together gives you a firsthand insight of the kind of partner your significant other would be in the long haul. It keeps your reality in check and gives you an idea whether or not you can survive to live with them forever.
Cheaper cost of living
Living separately means that both of you would be paying higher rent. More importantly, you will have expenses such as gas payments, groceries, insurance, phone and internet bills which when split into two, could really add up by a lot. Living together under one roof means that you can simply split your expenses into two. Furthermore, you would have an easier time budgeting for your needs since more often than not, the both of you would be pooling your finances and figuring out what goes which and the like. In this regard, you would be able to save by a whole lot and the monthly rental payment would be shouldered by the both of you.
It is a test, but a worthwhile one
Most couples are afraid to live together because they are afraid it might be the reason they would break up. We are not going to mince words here and say that living together will test your relationship and at the same time, would test both of you as individuals. It will show you what the boundaries of your relationship are and would let you know the kind of person you are looking to spend a lifetime with. Remember, if you cannot live together, then to simply put it: you should not live together. After all, would you really want to find out you cannot live with your partner for eternity only after you have tied the knot? Better to know early so that you can save yourself the potential heartbreak as well as the hefty litigation fees.