“The good neighbor looks beyond the external accidents and discerns those inner qualities that make all men human and, therefore, brothers.” –Martin Luther King
It has been widely said and believed that a good neighbor does not only make a massive difference in the quality of life but would also increase the value of your property. In this regard, it would make sense to foster a bond or even a friendship with our neighbors to cultivate a sense of community in the neighborhood.
Unfortunately, the current generation is predominantly run by millennials who have been found to lead incredibly spontaneous lives. Consequently, this means most of the homeowners nowadays have developed an affinity for cities where they can likely move around insomuch that most of their neighborhoods are merely transitory communities to them that would ultimately lead them to their next trajectory. The nomadic lifestyle might be primarily influenced by this generation’s fervent desire and endeavor to build on their careers first and capitalizing on them before wishing to settle down. However, while unpredictable lifestyles are not necessarily bad, to say the least, being in transitory neighborhoods would tend to make us overlook the importance of forming relationships with our neighbors. After all, if you treat your homes pretty much like hotels or move out fairly a lot, it would feel like there is no merit to befriending your neighbors.
Sure, an urbanized neighborhood might be teeming with people living nearby, but it is no different from living in the middle of nowhere if you failed to interact with them. You might have a lot of neighbors, but as you view your community as a transitory neighborhood, you would not really bother on getting to know your neighbors.
Regardless of how fleeting your time in a particular neighborhood might be, know that there are certain benefits to being neighborly. Statistically, your neighbors are probably very nice people, but you are not just giving them the chance to prove that to you. While you can go on about your life without ever acknowledging their presence or your need for them, your life would be so much better if you had a good relationship with them. Remember that your neighbors are the people who are so positioned to share your lives casually. In this regard, it is your duty to be as neighborly as you can be to the people living in proximity to you—whether you are living in a condominium in bgc or elsewhere. So, if you are moving to a new neighborhood or just wish to acquaint yourself with your neighbors, here are some of the ways you can do so:
1.) Share food
There is no better way to bond than to form a friendship over food. In fact, most neighbors would use a plate of cookies to introduce themselves to a new family that just moved into the neighborhood. So, if you have a talent for whipping up some magic in the kitchen through the form of baked goodies or pastries, bring a batch over and introduce yourselves to your neighbors. However, if you are not into cooking or baking, even some of your rotisserie chicken from the grocery store would already do the trick. Alternatively, you can also invite your neighbors for a meal at your place.
2.) Share expertise
In lieu of food and goodies, you can always opt to be neighborly by helping your neighbors with anything that might be in your line of expertise. It might be that your neighbor has virtually no idea how to set up their own Wi-Fi, might need help with setting up their computer or anything at all which you can help them with. Remember, even the slightest interaction can already go a long way, and you might not know it, your computer expertise or restaurant recommendation may already pave the way to a lasting friendship.
3.) Share contact information
Once you feel that a friendship is established between you and your neighbor, give them your contact details or their numbers. At one point in the future, you might need to ask them for help to watch your homes whenever you are out or even just check in on the kids left at home. Needless to say, it is always a good idea to share your contact information with a neighbor you can trust.
4.) Resolve disputes graciously and in person
Being passive-aggressive gets you nowhere, and it would needlessly ruffle feathers in the worst way possible. If your neighbor is behaving in a certain way that you do not like, then deal with it by taking up the concern or issue to them instead of leaving them angry notes that resolve nothing. Should they have a loud dog, no respect for your space or any issue that might irk you at all, address them personally. Remember, this is not a schoolyard fight that can be resolved with notes, so opt to be a mature person and deal with it appropriately. Sure, it might seem like leaving anonymous angry notes would give you the satisfaction you need but it also does not guarantee that the issue will be addressed. Furthermore, it would eliminate any prospect of neighborliness.