Harmonious Living: Five Compelling Reasons to Live Together Before Tying the Knot

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“Marriage is not just about love and living together. It is much more complicated, especially when you are going to be making a family.” –Laura Schlessinger

 

Modern couples are often warned against living together before receiving the sacrament of marriage.

However, this rather archaic belief (and old-fashioned advice) that suggests couples should avoid living in sin with their significant other has been somewhat diminished by the way most people in a relationship behave nowadays. After all, if we were not so intent on holding on to antiquated notions, we would see how living together prior to marriage can actually be very beneficial to couples. In a way, it gives you an insight of what your partner really is like before you tie the knot and would ultimately help you determine whether the both of you would make a good match. Despite what statistics might suggest, there are some merits to living together without the benefit of marriage. So, if you have been thinking of moving in with your significant other—whether in a home in Kasara Urban Resort Residences or elsewhere—here are some of the most convincing reasons why it might be a good idea:

 

It gives you the full idea of what you are signing up for

When you are in a relationship, you tend to put your best foot forward in order to impress your significant other. However, when we are at home, we tend to be in our own element, let our hair down and get comfortable. More often than not, we may often have habits that our significant other might not approve of and they might have quirks which would grate on our nerves. These are all things you would not notice if you only saw each other outside of the home and casually dated. When you are living together, you would see the person for who they really are—quirks and all. In this regard, you would be able to decide whether the both of you would be a good fit or not. After all, those cute little habits might not be that cute to you after all. Best you find out now when you have not officially tied the knot yet then when the both of you are already married.

Divorce is expensive

Domestic issues are often deal breakers when it comes to marriages. Unfortunately, you would not have an idea of what these are until you have lived with a person under one roof. More often than not, they do not come to light until such time that a person lives with you in the same home and you wake up with them every single day. These home issues are rather insidious as there is no way of predicting what they are and yet, it can lead you to break up—even within just the first couple of months. If you are married, this might mean you have to resort to a nasty divorce settlement whereas living together would only mean moving out.

It gives you an idea of what married life will be like

More often than not, couples would hastily get hitched under the premise that marriage is all bliss and euphoria without paying any heed to the potential issues that may arise. Unfortunately, marriages do not always mean happy endings or perfect romances. At times, the truth is harsher and there is really no perfect life after marriage. After all, marriage is mostly about teamwork and working with each other which means moving together towards resolving your issues. Living together gives you a firsthand insight of the kind of partner your significant other would be in the long haul. It keeps your reality in check and gives you an idea whether or not you can survive to live with them forever.

Cheaper cost of living

Living separately means that both of you would be paying higher rent. More importantly, you will have expenses such as gas payments, groceries, insurance, phone and internet bills which when split into two, could really add up by a lot. Living together under one roof means that you can simply split your expenses into two. Furthermore, you would have an easier time budgeting for your needs since more often than not, the both of you would be pooling your finances and figuring out what goes which and the like. In this regard, you would be able to save by a whole lot and the monthly rental payment would be shouldered by the both of you.

It is a test, but a worthwhile one

Most couples are afraid to live together because they are afraid it might be the reason they would break up. We are not going to mince words here and say that living together will test your relationship and at the same time, would test both of you as individuals. It will show you what the boundaries of your relationship are and would let you know the kind of person you are looking to spend a lifetime with. Remember, if you cannot live together, then to simply put it: you should not live together.  After all, would you really want to find out you cannot live with your partner for eternity only after you have tied the knot? Better to know early so that you can save yourself the potential heartbreak as well as the hefty litigation fees.

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Parents’ Corner: 8 Ways to Support Your Child Going to College

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The transition from high school to college is a weird time for children. For one, it’s their first taste of adulthood. Selecting the educational institution they want to spend their four years is one of the significant decisions that can affect the course of their life. The second decision lies in the course they will take.

Though you might not get a say in these two things, it is still your duty as a parent to support them. Some parents get a condo in Pasig, so their child doesn’t have to spend hours on travel. Others accompany their kid while sitting on their admissions test in Manila. As a parent, these are the ways you can show you support your child’s decisions. Here’s how.

1. Express your enthusiasm over their choice

Your child will be faced with endless options starting from the college or university that he or she plans on attending. Understand that this is your child’s choice. Feel free to offer your insights and opinion if your child consults you but know that your child will be the one to make the final decision. The best you can do is to gently point out the things that your child will have to consider before making his or her choice. If your child is bent on a decision, then you should be happy for him or her. It shows his or her determination on pursuing the goal he or she set for herself/himself.

2. Research on different educational plans and institutions

Although the decisions should ultimately come from your child, you can help him make an informed one by researching with him. Learn as what you can about the environment and culture associated with a particular university so that your child is ready to be immersed in it. Also, you should look into different financial grants especially if you know that your child qualifies. A lot of college applicants aren’t aware of scholarships and college financial aids. You can save your child from student loans by ensuring you secure your source of finances.

3. Maintain communication

Whether your child will still be living with you, staying in a dormitory or you plan on getting a condo in Manila, you should maintain the communication lines open. Your child is sure to encounter a myriad of changes before coursework, and other requirements can become daunting. It’s vital that your child knows that he or she can go to you for anything. Regularly check on your child on how he or she is doing. Allow him or her to vent about his or her experiences.

4. Allow your child to practice independence

Be confident knowing that you raised a responsible child. Allow him or her to make decisions on how to live his or her life while in a dorm or a condo unit in Metro Manila. Try not to keep your child on a tight leash and learn to let go. Let him or her to enjoy this phase of his or her life. You should enjoy your new found freedom too.

5. Inspire him or her to join extracurricular activities

Volunteering, joining the student council, being on the debate club or learning to play an instrument are some of the things that improve your child’s college application paper. Your child may not have the ideal GPA in high school, but having activities on the side can boost your child’s confidence during admissions interviews. Even before he or she steps in college, he or she should have events on the side. You can inspire him or her to find her passion early on by joining different activities together. You can try out different sports, enroll in classes, or volunteer in your community. When children see that the person they admire are doing things they haven’t tried, then they are likely to do them as well.

6. Make progress based on their pace

Each person has a specific pace. Your child might be staring at the TV while looking chill when he or she still hasn’t finished filling out the forms. It might tempt you to nag them, but it wouldn’t help ease the pressure of getting the college of their dreams. Instead of nagging them, you should spend quality time with them. Invite him or her for a walk. Get iced coffee at his favorite cafe. Catch up. It doesn’t always have to be about their career options. You should also see how they are doing now and then.

7. Get a coach

Though your child might seem like he or she has under control, it can be the opposite. Most of the time, they are unsure of what they’re doing. They aren’t confident of their options. They are worried if they picked the wrong course. They are anxious about the looming deadline for college applications. Often, these things are out of your hands. Therefore, you should consider getting some help. Hiring a coach can help your child build confidence and feel more prepared to face what’s in store for them in college.

8. Discuss expectations and experiences but don’t poison them

Before letting your child free of your grasp, you must first have some heart-to-heart talk. It allows you to impart your expectations of your child’s performance. You can also use this to share the experiences you had when you were in college, but it doesn’t mean you should poison them. You shouldn’t fill their thoughts of outdated notions on what’s it like to be on campus, traditional college application process, and test taking.

The best thing you can do as their parent is to support their dreams. Allow your child to find their purpose and contribute to society. Though getting a degree is not always part of the vision, you should make them understand the difference between making decisions when you have achieved higher education over those that did not.

Etiquette: Making Friends With The Neighbors

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Whether you’re in a new suburban neighborhood or recently moved in your new condo, you can feel more at home when you know the people than when you don’t. Staying aloof and keeping to yourself might work when you were a kid, but it won’t be the same once you turn into an adult. You have to get along with your neighbors to ensure you live in a peaceful community.

You might find it easy to get along with a bunch of people. Meanwhile, you might find some people in your community won’t warm up to so easily. Sometimes you have to conjure a few tricks from your sleeves to make them open up to you. If you have a hard time being friendly with the neighbors, here are ten things you can do to become their friend.

1. Be the first one to say hello

When new in a place, first impression matters. You should always be the one to wave and give a friendly smile. It doesn’t matter if you’re tired from carrying boxes. You should appear welcoming and open for small talk. It makes people think you’re friendly.

2. Schedule a time for exploring the community

You won’t meet people by staying indoors all the time. You also get a chance of catching up with others while walking their dogs, tending to their gardens or lounging in their patio. Take daily morning or evening walks to meet new friends. You can ask your neighbors about local restaurants, dog-friendly parks, and community events. Asking about garbage collection is schedule is another way to break the ice.

3. Go old-school

Try the traditional route and bring some gifts when you visit your neighbor. Some communities still offer housewarming gifts to new families in the neighborhood. If someone does bring you something, you should return the favor. You can bake a batch of cookies using your mom’s secret recipe. But if you don’t have a knack for baking, then you can opt for local pastries near Ardia Vermosa.

4. Give out compliments

Always be a giver. If offering some goodies is stretching it too far, then you should hand out compliments. Marveling at your neighbor’s new paint job, well-maintained lawn, or the design of their home is free. You can easily get at thumbs up when you are generous with compliments. The next time you bump into the couple next door, you should try commenting on how great their blooms are.

5. Exchange numbers

Giving your phone number or home landline is a sign of trust. It means you’re letting the person be part of your inner circle. It also means your placing your neighbor in the list of emergency contacts you have. It’s now easy to invite their family over the next time you plan to have a mini celebration. Most of all, you’ll know who to call once your pet gets out of your backyard.

6. Make plans

Improving your relationship with people doesn’t end. Talking to them now and then is great, but you have to go out and do activities eventually. Grabbing a cup of coffee or a few rounds of beer are some things you can do to connect with them. If you want to get to know the people on your block without having to invite them one by one, then you should set up a housewarming party. It’s fun, and it brings people together. It also helps you get to know the people in your neighborhood without feeling pressured about it.

7. Find out who’s nearby

If you’re relocating to a different community, you should look for a friendly face in the neighborhood. You can look into your social networks to find out who’s nearby. Your school’s alumni association, church group, and other organizations you belong are some of the places you can look for friends and associates who might be in the same neighborhood as you are.

8. Discover shared interests

Similar to other relationships in your life, there’s bound to be common interest that you and your neighbor both enjoy. It might be a passion for home decor, gardening, or triathlons. Whatever it is, you can use it to bond over and build your relationship. If they have kids the same age as yours, you can schedule a playdate. If not, you can always tag along to his or her weekly sessions at the gym or favorite nail salon.

9. Visit popular communal areas

There’s bound to be an area where your neighbors frequent. Some people spend their weekends at the clubhouse. Others set up a meeting point at the jogging trail. It can also be the tennis courts or the park near the city center. You should spend time in these places, so you could chance upon your neighbors. Bring a book to read, walk your dog, or take your family to strike a conversation with people you only see when you throw the trash.

10. Deliver mail personally

If you live in an apartment, there’s a chance their letter gets mixed up with yours. You should take advantage of this opportunity. Knock to their door and introduce yourself. It might seem logical to slip the mail under their door or leave their letter in the mailbox. But if your goal is to make some friends, then you should go ahead and deliver their mail personally.

Making friends with your neighbor is not as difficult as you think. As long as you don’t let your awkwardness and shyness get in the way, you’ll be fine. In time, you’ll learn to enjoy the company of your neighbors and the people around you.

Etiquette: Surviving a Party

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Each party has a specific setup. Some parties are laidback. Others are loud and raucous. The setup of the party depends on the environment. If you’re the type to be socially awkward or shy away from large groups of people, then you can be in a sticky spot during parties. You won’t be able to converse with other people if you aren’t comfortable in the situation. You also won’t be able to enjoy what the host serves on the table if you’re too shy to move.

Whether it’s a small gathering in a condo in Makati or a function near a hall in Sta. Mesa, you can follow the tips below to have a grand time. Social gatherings made for you to enjoy. Don’t worry if you don’t know how to act. These tips will let you know how to act at a party even when you are by yourself.

Introduce yourself to other people

The more you wait to talk to other people, the more you will get cold feet. When that happens, your confidence levels go down. It becomes harder to mingle with others. Once you get to the party, go around and start talking to people. Introduce yourself to those who don’t know you. A simple “Hey and nice to meet you” does the trick. You can continue the conversation by asking if they know other people or they have someone else with them. You can also ask if they know the host. Others will notice you’re friendly and social eventually.

Keep a friendly face.

Don’t just sulk and frown in a corner. No one wants to be in the company of a Debbie Downer. If you’re planning to be the light of the party, you should smile and open yourself to others. Greet other people and go around the area. If you’re feeling a bit down, you should immerse in a light conversation with other guests who are happy to be there. Hopefully, their jokes and good mood can rub on you. Also, part of being friendly is getting into a conversation with people who wish to talk to you. Some people might find you interesting. These people look forward to getting to know more about you so you should be sensitive to see if someone wishes to strike a conversation with you.

Don’t worry about other people.

Remember, everyone in the party is either enjoying the booze, free food, or the company of others. If you’re afraid that you’ll look like a jerk or loser, then you’re just wasting your time and energy. Most people in the party don’t care about what others are doing. In particular, no cares about what you plan to do. With that in mind, you should do whatever you were expecting before you got in the place. Talk to people, try out some snacks, and get plastered. But, these things are more fun when you do them with someone. Be sure to have someone with you first before anything else.

Observe proper etiquette.

Whatever you do, you must always observe proper etiquette. When someone talks to you, you should look at him or her in the eyes. Stand up straight and avoid slouching. Your body language should convey you are open to accepting other people in your space. When someone is talking with you, you should pay attention. It shows that you are genuine and deeply interested in what they are saying. Lastly, you should always remember the names of the people who are talking to you. You can mention their names a few times if you can’t remember a lot of names in a short amount of time.

Select a few people you would like to get to know.

After you talk with several people, you should pick those whose company you enjoy. You only have limited time and energy, so you must use it wisely. It’s best to expend them on the people you love. Try to get to know them better by spending most of your time with them. But in the process, you should not try to blow off other people who try to join the conversation. People are in a party to expand their network and meet someone new. Clamming up and pushing others away can make people think that you aren’t friendly.

Treat people how you want others to treat you

You should follow this rule everywhere you go. Always treat people how you want them to approach you. Talk to them how someone should talk to you. Others don’t want to associate themselves with a rude person. They also don’t want to spend time with someone who doesn’t see or treat them as an equal. If you don’t want other people to call out your rude behavior, then you should always be considerate of how you treat people and how they feel about it.

Of course, not everyone has the social energy to immerse themselves in the experience fully. If you find yourself tired or feeling drained, you should excuse yourself and step away from the scene. After recharging, go back to the party and continue spending time with your new found friends.

7 Things You Must Know Before Going the Movie Theater with Kids

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Going to the movies is a normal thing for adults. Some people watch movies every week. Other see the latest flicks a few times a month while some only visit a theater once a month. It doesn’t matter how many times they’ve been to a movie theater. Adults are used to going to different theaters to watch the latest movie releases. Unfortunately, it’s not the same for children. Most kids still haven’t been in a theater. Since cinemas have strict age limits, most parents opt to watch movies in their home.

Still, a lot of parents would like their children to experience what it’s like to view a film on the silver screen. You must first know a few things before you bring your child to the theater. Parents take their kids to the movie theater without preparing themselves is a huge mistake. They also don’t take the time to tell their kids what to expect and how to act. Fortunately, the tips below can help you manage your kids and ensure you have a grand time at the theater.

  1. You must get your tickets online

Kids don’t like the waiting game. They have no patience for falling in line. If you’re seeing a movie during the weekend, then you are likely to face long lines. You should book your seats online to avoid waiting in line. You can check out booking sites like SureSeats or the theater’s website to buy your tickets. These platforms also support online payment and transfers. Thus, you won’t have to take out your wallet and count your cash once in the theater.

  1. Check if your kids are ready to spend time in the theater

There isn’t a specific age for kids to visit the movie theater. Some parents bring their kids to see their first movie once they 3 or 4 years old. The decision is up to your kid. Some children aren’t ready to see their first movie around this age. They either won’t sit still or are bothered by the dark. Other kids are sensitive to the noises. Before you book your tickets, you must ensure the children are comfortable staying in the dark and placing their attention on what’s playing on the screen.

  1. You must select a kid-friendly movie

If you’re taking your kids to see a flick that’s appropriate to them. Most of the time, it’s an animation or a cartoon. However, not all of them are the best choices for the children. As much as possible, you should select a movie that is slow-paced or has a short screening time. The film must not be as long as the average blockbuster, so impatient and temperamental children won’t make a fuss while the movie goes on.

  1. Skip the commercials and trailers

You might enjoy viewing the latest movies and staying updated through the movie trailers. But when you have young audiences coming with you, it’s best to skip them. You should opt to arrive on time instead of coming early. Kids younger than 8 years old might not distinguish the difference between the actual film and the previews. At the same time, the fast storyline of the storyline might leave them confused. You might also chance upon a preview of a horror film. The experience can terrify them and make them back out from watch out the rest of the movie.

  1. Time it right

Don’t go to the theater because you feel like it. Ensure that your kids and other children with you are in the right state of mind. Some kids are on their best behavior in the morning. You should watch a movie during the times when they aren’t cranky and in a good mood. The best time to bring them is after taking their nap or getting their fill. When the timing is right, you won’t have a difficult time getting them to calm down.

  1. Decide on which snacks to buy ahead of time

Before scoring tickets from the booth, you must decide which snacks to buy. You might end up missing the movie if you don’t establish which popcorn flavor to buy, what candy to pick, and which drink is best with popcorn. On your way to the theater, you must negotiate which food to get from the snack bar.

  1. Try not to pressure your kid

Remember, you are not alone who must deal with screaming or crying child. Yes, it’s a waste of money to buy tickets for a movie your child is not ready to see. But, you shouldn’t force your child to go through something they are not prepared to experience. You can always try again next time, or you can try going back to the theater after he or she calms down.

For adults, going to movie theaters is an ordinary feat. But for children, it’s different. They aren’t used to the dark. They won’t sit still and focus all their attention on the screen. Therefore, you must consider these things before you bring your child to see his or her first movie.

Real Estate Properties: Four Overt Signs It is Time to Sell Your Home

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“Owning a home is a keystone of wealth—both financial affluence and emotional security”-Suze Orman

 

Much like anything in life, our homes go through the normal phases of wear and tear. While we can do our best to maintain its upkeep and ensure that it remains as functional as it was before, there is no guarantee that it can serve us optimally. In this regard, we would then begin our search for our new place to call our own. With this in mind, we would then be prompted to sell our existing homes.

Selling your home is a significant step and a big deal even insomuch that it requires contemplation and forethought before pushing through. It does not matter whether this home selling endeavor is your first attempt or if you had sold homes countless times in the past before you can even ask yourself how you can sell your home, you need to reexamine your reasons for doing so and if you are ready to do so. Sure, that newly marked down condominium for sale in Quezon City might be enough reason for you to wish to sell your homes as soon as you possibly can but know that selling your home is not a decision you can make arbitrarily. It is not something you decide to do within waking up without assessing whether you need to or not. Furthermore, the state of your finances would significantly contribute as to whether or not you can afford to move on from your current place. In any case, if you have given selling your home and moving neighborhood much thought, it might be wise to go over the six ways in which you would find out whether you can already commence the process of selling your house.

 

 

When you have a plan

Having a plan is the most pivotal aspect to think about when you are thinking of selling your homes. There is always a myriad of what-ifs and you cannot always bank on the success of a sale. Remember, there is always a possibility that your homes would sit for ages before getting sold in the market. What would you do by then? In this regard, it is best to make room for contingencies, expect the unexpected and be prepared for anything. Be prepared for the multitudes of outcomes so that you would not be rendered surprised if a certain eventuality is not in your favor.

It no longer suits your needs

Our homes are primarily erected to suit our needs in such a way that it would only work for you if it is tailored according to your lifestyle. At one point, a two-bedroom flat might have been a decent place to live in, but with your family growing, you might be cramped for space. Consider what your needs are now and if your current home would still be able to meet them. Pause and reevaluate where you are in life in relation to work, family and activities right now. Does your current home adequately meet all of these head on? Or is your home where most of your frustrations and disappointments stem from? Furthermore, you should ask yourself whether or not your home is still currently making you happy. If it is not, then it might be time to put it in the real estate market.

The neighborhood does not fit

Being in a neighborhood that does not meet your needs is just as bad as having a home that is not tailored according to your lifestyle. Once you deem a neighborhood unfit to suit your lifestyle and needs, it would negatively impact how you see your home and may even affect your daily life. Take this as a sign that it might be time to sell. This scenario likely happens to people who are living in far-flung areas and would wish to live closer to the city where establishments and other commercial areas are in proximity or walking distance. Similarly, this could be the case for families with children reaching a school age and would wish to enroll their kids in a nearby school. Remember that neighborhoods play a pivotal role in how our daily routines flesh out insomuch that where we live can make our lives more convenient or aggravating. Know that each neighborhood has something different to offer. Know what you and your family need and select the best one for you.

The renovations will not provide ROI

It is inevitable that we develop an affinity for the home we are living in. We love it so much that we would consider doing renovation work to give it a better look and to help it serve our evolving lifestyles better. However, most homeowners do renovation works with the hopes of not only improving their living space but their property values as well when they would be ready to sell. Unfortunately, renovations do not always pay off. If you feel like any renovation would be fruitless in your neighborhood, you might want to think twice in pushing through your attempt. You might want to just sell your home instead.

 

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Harmonious Communities: Four Ways to be More Neighborly

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“The good neighbor looks beyond the external accidents and discerns those inner qualities that make all men human and, therefore, brothers.” –Martin Luther King

It has been widely said and believed that a good neighbor does not only make a massive difference in the quality of life but would also increase the value of your property. In this regard, it would make sense to foster a bond or even a friendship with our neighbors to cultivate a sense of community in the neighborhood.

Unfortunately, the current generation is predominantly run by millennials who have been found to lead incredibly spontaneous lives. Consequently, this means most of the homeowners nowadays have developed an affinity for cities where they can likely move around insomuch that most of their neighborhoods are merely transitory communities to them that would ultimately lead them to their next trajectory. The nomadic lifestyle might be primarily influenced by this generation’s fervent desire and endeavor to build on their careers first and capitalizing on them before wishing to settle down. However, while unpredictable lifestyles are not necessarily bad, to say the least, being in transitory neighborhoods would tend to make us overlook the importance of forming relationships with our neighbors. After all, if you treat your homes pretty much like hotels or move out fairly a lot, it would feel like there is no merit to befriending your neighbors.

Sure, an urbanized neighborhood might be teeming with people living nearby, but it is no different from living in the middle of nowhere if you failed to interact with them. You might have a lot of neighbors, but as you view your community as a transitory neighborhood, you would not really bother on getting to know your neighbors.

Regardless of how fleeting your time in a particular neighborhood might be, know that there are certain benefits to being neighborly. Statistically, your neighbors are probably very nice people, but you are not just giving them the chance to prove that to you. While you can go on about your life without ever acknowledging their presence or your need for them, your life would be so much better if you had a good relationship with them. Remember that your neighbors are the people who are so positioned to share your lives casually. In this regard, it is your duty to be as neighborly as you can be to the people living in proximity to you—whether you are living in a condominium in bgc or elsewhere. So, if you are moving to a new neighborhood or just wish to acquaint yourself with your neighbors, here are some of the ways you can do so:

 

1.) Share food

There is no better way to bond than to form a friendship over food. In fact, most neighbors would use a plate of cookies to introduce themselves to a new family that just moved into the neighborhood. So, if you have a talent for whipping up some magic in the kitchen through the form of baked goodies or pastries, bring a batch over and introduce yourselves to your neighbors. However, if you are not into cooking or baking, even some of your rotisserie chicken from the grocery store would already do the trick. Alternatively, you can also invite your neighbors for a meal at your place.

2.) Share expertise

In lieu of food and goodies, you can always opt to be neighborly by helping your neighbors with anything that might be in your line of expertise. It might be that your neighbor has virtually no idea how to set up their own Wi-Fi, might need help with setting up their computer or anything at all which you can help them with. Remember, even the slightest interaction can already go a long way, and you might not know it, your computer expertise or restaurant recommendation may already pave the way to a lasting friendship.

3.) Share contact information

Once you feel that a friendship is established between you and your neighbor, give them your contact details or their numbers. At one point in the future, you might need to ask them for help to watch your homes whenever you are out or even just check in on the kids left at home. Needless to say, it is always a good idea to share your contact information with a neighbor you can trust.

4.) Resolve disputes graciously and in person

Being passive-aggressive gets you nowhere, and it would needlessly ruffle feathers in the worst way possible. If your neighbor is behaving in a certain way that you do not like, then deal with it by taking up the concern or issue to them instead of leaving them angry notes that resolve nothing. Should they have a loud dog, no respect for your space or any issue that might irk you at all, address them personally. Remember, this is not a schoolyard fight that can be resolved with notes, so opt to be a mature person and deal with it appropriately. Sure, it might seem like leaving anonymous angry notes would give you the satisfaction you need but it also does not guarantee that the issue will be addressed. Furthermore, it would eliminate any prospect of neighborliness.

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How Make Guests Feel Welcome Whenever They Come Over

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It pays to be a good host or hostess. You must know how to care for your guests whenever they visit for a few hours or when they decide to stay over the weekend. For some people, preparation comes easy when they have people come over. However, others still struggle and feel stressed once they find out a childhood friend or a few relatives fly over to spend the holidays. They are at a loss on how to prepare their home.

Fortunately, you don’t have to fuss over the details of what to prepare when guests arrive. Whether you live in a condo or staying at a house and lot for sale in Cavite, here are some of the ways on how to make guests feel welcome whenever they stay over.

1. Prepare for an outdoor gathering

There’s only so much you can do accomplish your home. Eventually, your guests will get bored and look for ways to entertain themselves. If you don’t have anything to do, why not bring the fun outdoors? You can get some outdoor chairs to gather around a low table or a firepit. The table can hold your food and snacks while the firepit can keep you warm during chilly nights. Having an outdoor gathering spot also gives you a place to hang out when drinking coffee or taking evening cocktails.

2. Prepare your meals ahead of time

Spend less time in the kitchen by chopping vegetables and gathering ingredients before you need them. You can store them in containers so you can quickly retrieve them when you need them. You can do the same with appetizers and other snacks.

3. Make it easy to get breakfast

Try not to make breakfast a hassle for everyone. Instead of preparing toast of getting your hands full with a full with preparing a full English, you should go for doughnuts, bagels, and pastries from bakeries or groceries. You can also get single-serving cereals and spreads. These alternatives are perfect for guests who stay up late.

4. Serve lunch buffet style

If you’re having special meals or planning a dinner out, you should simplify your lunch by laying out an assortment of loaves of bread, cheese, and thin slices of meat. Pair it fresh slices of fruits, salads, and small servings of dessert. It’s light but enough to limit your time in the kitchen. Afterward, let your guests help themselves to get their fill.

5. Keep guests satisfied in between activities

You should offer chips and dips, a fruit platter, or a crudite to keep the crowd happy and satisfied. You can set them on a plate or your kitchen counter for easy access. For the health conscious, you can serve oatmeal cookies, oven-baked carrot fries, nuts, and other vegan substitutes. Don’t forget to have a supply of water nearby. It’s best to have bottled water so they can get them on the go.

6. Allow your guests to explore the kitchen

Don’t limit your guests to what’s available. You should let them explore what’s in the kitchen. To make things easy, you can make a list of where to find items in the kitchen. You should also point out where to find plates and glasses. It makes them familiar with your place while having access to your supplies.

7. Set a meetup point

If you are housing a big group or always heading in a different direction, you should set a time and a place where everyone can meet each night to catch up or grab an appetizer before your meal. It gives a chance for other people to meet with other members of the party. Establishing a meetup point is a great way to meet others even when your schedules aren’t in sync.

8. Schedule group activities

Ensure you have activities prepared for everyone. You should have activities lined up for different age groups and the weather. You can schedule a game night if you want to unwind and spend time indoors. You can play badminton, soccer or frisbee if you have enough space in your lawn. If it’s raining or freezing outside, you can exchange stories by the fireplace, solve puzzles, or bring out a big puzzle. Don’t forget to bring out munchies and other snacks that are easy to pass within a group.

9. Be their local tour guide

Always keep everyone within the loop by writing the day’s events and weather forecasts someplace everyone can see. If you have a chalkboard, you should use to write your plans for the day. If guests spend their time by themselves, you should have a spare key ready for them to go as they please. Also, don’t forget to hand out brochures and a map that shows the instructions on how to go back to your home. Still, you can always accompany them wherever they go and show them the must-see sites in your area.

These are the ways on how to make your guests feel at home. You should always ensure they feel comfortable and at ease with your home. Playing a good host or hostess is reasonably easy as long as you follow these tips.

Here’s a List of Things You Should Add to Your Bucket List Now

 

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Everyone says life is short, but do you know what is shorter? Your teenage years, your twenties, thirties and so on. When you think of it, you only have ten years for each stage of life. It can be a stretch when you count it day by day. But in reality, it’s a phase you’ll get over in a few years.

Whatever age you are now, you should start building your bucket list. Your bucket list isn’t only for those with a death sentence. It’s also for people who have always been in their comfort zone. If you’re one of those people, then it’s time for you to step out of it. You should step up your game and live your life and not just watch by the sidelines.

The list below includes some of the activities you can try. You can pick only the ones you fancy and leave out the rest. Your bucket list is entirely up to you.n

Watch a horror flick on a weekday

Since The Nun is currently playing in theaters, why not head to Vertis North cinema to watch it? Be sure to catch it during the weekday since most people are at work or school. You’ll have the theater to yourself and to a couple of brave souls who picked the same day to watch it. You’ll get to experience fear in its full glory while bingeing on chocolates and sodas because there’s no one to tell you otherwise.

Learn to cook a family recipe

You can live on chicken nuggets, deep-fried frozen meat, and canned tuna forever, but it won’t be good for your health. You can develop cancer or some deadly disease you might only find out a few years down the road. Break your habit of fried and oven-toasted food by learning how to cook. You can start by perfecting the art of recreating your grandma’s casserole or your pop’s superb pasta. Whatever it is, ask your family to teach you how to do it before they are gone.

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You may have a degree, but it’s not an assurance you’ll land your dream job after you leave school. More often than not, your first job is something you don’t want to do for the rest of your life. Sometimes, it’s not what you expect. If you’re a fresh grad and currently looking into employment opportunities, you should try retail or service jobs. These industries won’t bring in big bucks, but they’ll teach you a lot about people and how to work with them.

Find a cause and volunteer

It feels good to help people and fight for a purpose. Don’t spend all your time binge watching shows, playing video games or daydreaming about things you can’t change. Instead, use your time to find a cause you love. You can help cancer patients make their dreams come true. You can plant trees to save mountains. You can spend time at an animal shelter. It doesn’t matter what it is as long as you enjoy what you do and it pushes you to volunteer without hesitation.

List the things you discovered about yourself

Every day is a new beginning. It’s an opportunity for you to do something different from yesterday. The experiences you will have today makes you a different person tomorrow. Therefore, you should list the things you discover about yourself. Having a list is an excellent way to track your changes and how much you’ve grown in a short amount of time. You can review the list weekly or monthly to see if there are significant changes in your self.

Move to a place far from home

Think of your home as your comfort zone. The goal is to get out of the zone to see how you’ll respond in different situations. Staying at home won’t allow you to expand your roots. Therefore, it’s time you consider moving out of your hometown. You should find a place that helps you grow and succeed as a person. You won’t know which area is the right place for you if you don’t venture far from the bird’s nest.

Travel to a place you don’t understand the language

Often, language is the least of your worries. You don’t have to study a new language because everyone speaks English, right? Unfortunately, not everyone is fortunate to go to school and learn English. Some poor communities don’t even have the means to educate themselves on the local culture. You should visit a place that doesn’t speak your language. You’ll be forced to learn the local dialect and communicate with people through other means.

Be the first person to say sorry

You should start acknowledging your faults and owning up to your mistakes. Saying sorry is the same as giving credit. It benefits everyone. It makes you and the other person feel good. When you apologize, you can quickly move past the argument and sticky situation. Last but the least, saying sorry means you’re letting go of the anger that holds you back.

These are the things you should add to your bucket list. Most people neglect to do these little things, but they are often those that leave the most impact. If you wish to enrich your life, you should start creating your bucket list. Go over each item while you still have time. It’ll leave with stories to tell your future grandchildren.

New Beginnings: Five Ways to Tell Kids about a Move So That They Do Not Feel Left Out

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“Change can be scary, but you know what is scarier? Allowing fear to stop you from growing, evolving and progressing” –Mandy Hale

 

It is no question that one of the most stressful events you will ever go through.

Unfortunately, moving is not one task you can opt to sit one out because at some point in your life, moving homes is going to be inevitable. Indeed, while the prospect alone would already seem intimidating to adults, what more on your little tots? Yes, moving would be difficult but if you have young children in tow, expect it to be even harder on them. Little children have an affinity for permanence insomuch that the idea of any kind of change would be scary to them. The moment you tell them that you are moving, it would feel as if their world is collapsing around them. Children can often feel uncertain about a move and would resultantly resist it in a myriad of ways.

When told about the move, they can often throw tantrums and would whine. They would often feel like they are oppressed by the prospect of moving and this is very much understandable. After all, to a kid, the home is their world—one that they associate with love, safety and family insomuch that the thought of leaving it behind can be terrifying. For older children, the prospect of leaving their school, friends, and teachers can be jarring to a routine they are used to. In this regard, it is best to tell them the news about your in an opportune moment. However, do not wait too long as they would also need the time to adjust to the news and make the resultant move go so much smoother.

So, make your move to Pioneer Woodlands or elsewhere go without a hitch by keeping these tips in mind when breaking the news to your children:

 

Tell them early

Once a decision has been reached, gather your family around and get them involved. The sooner you tell them, the better lest they think you are deliberately hiding something important from them. Remember, your older kids will want to know when you decided this the moment you tell them the news. To ensure that they would all equally feel in the loop, let them know that they are the first ones to know about your decision. By doing so, they would feel assured that they matter as well.

Hold a family meeting

After dinner, ask your family to stay behind before quickly going to their rooms or doing any chores. Similarly, you might wish to tell them the news in the family room, but make sure that there are no distractions such as the television or any other gadgets. Be careful not to break the news in public areas such as restaurants or parks as children need to express their feelings freely. Plus, you do not want to have to appease a crying child in the middle of a busy diner. Do it in an environment where everyone feels comfortable. Keep your kids at ease by not announcing the subject of your news until such time that you and your children already get to sit and talk together.

Remain open

Not every single one of your children is going to take your news easily. Understand that your kids might be upset and allow them to express their emotions—whether that may be anger to frustration. Allow them to ask you questions and answer them as honestly as you can. Give them time to process the news and accept that they might not be as receptive to the news as you expected them to be. More importantly, let them talk and listen to them. Let them know they are heard. Being able to talk and air out their frustrations and feelings about the matter would let them know that they matter as well.

Be firm about letting them know that the decision is final

Some children may wheedle out of their way about a possibility they do not like. However, let your kids know that the decision is final and be firm about it. If you wavered in your decision and should you express any doubts or worries, your children would feel uncertain and might even ask you to rethink the move. If you are having second thoughts, express these to your spouse when the two of you are alone or to a trusted confidante. Do not whisper at night or even talk about it when you are in your room. You will never know when little ears might be listening in.

Provide kids only with the information they need

In discussing the move, it is important to disclose everything your kids might want to know. However, you should be careful not to overwhelm them with information. Thing such as when the move would be, where, why and how are all pertinent things to answer when telling them the news. Should they want to know anything more, they would ask. Give them time to adjust to the news and do not bombard them with all the details all at once.

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